我鳗鱼 也是一只自由泳的小鸟 @[email protected]

所以她要来家里过夜了……
她爸：如果你晚上做噩梦的话我们就给你妈妈打电话哦。
小姑娘：我每天都做好梦！
真好​​

这娃真的好活跃，每次见她都是又蹦又跳又说又唱的，跟一天到晚精神萎靡的她爸形成了鲜明的对比

今天受邀一起去了剧院，出来之后我问她爸还有什么计划。娃说要去儿童游乐场，我说那好我回家继续干活。娃说，那我也跟你一起回家，爸爸你自己去游乐场吧。
？

@niemand 这个形状真的好像动漫里的啊​​我做不出来这样的

@niemand 诶？好久不见​​

在火车上写论文，好爽，感觉回到了硕士期间日常在火车上复习考试的日子。

又到了戴口罩会在口罩里流汗的日子..

@ksl @sibylsea 调休应该是 1999 年颁发新《全国年节及纪念日放假办法》的时候出现的，那个时候国庆春节和五一假日变成三天，调休之后就有了三个黄金周。之前貌似是不调休的，但是法定假日少三天。双休是 1995 年 5 月 1 日《国务院关于修改〈国务院关于职工工作时间的规定〉的决定》开始实行的。
感觉她这个叙事不是固定的一段时间，而是有几段时间混在一起，比如里面说的 b 站..反正都是以前发生过的

而且作为（associate）教授在一线做研究也很厉害，这篇论文他是唯一作者…一般教授都把活给别人干，只在末尾挂个名…

就是这篇论文：http://www.cemyuksel.com/research/interpolating_splines/
关于 C2 连续的样条插值。思路特别简单，我觉得最神奇的就是仅仅 Eq. 2 一项就可以满足 C2 了，这是怎么想到的…整个论文最关键的也只有等式一等式二和图二图三而已，特别好懂，其他的基本都是在阐述性质。如果基本函数选择 Bezier 曲线的话 convex hull 这样的良好性质也可以保留…
好久没读这种不花里胡哨的论文了​​本来在想要不要做论文导读的，但是我感觉 Cem Yuksel 他自己就讲得很好了，他 YouTube 上还有一系列 Computer Graphics 的课也都讲得特别好​​

好快乐！下午完成了昨天拖欠的工作，晚上花了四五个小时读懂并成功 implement 了一篇论文！喜欢这种又简洁又特别有用的论文​​

@kmethne 漏了一节，是说除了克服恐惧以外还应该学习和提升社交技巧，但说的都是在 therapist 的指导下进行的。如果你情况很严重，也许应该去找一个 cognitive 方向的 therapist。只是社交恐惧而没有社交恐惧“症”的话，也许可以自行治疗？

@kmethne
*What Causes Social Anxiety Disorder?*
The leading explanation for social anxiety disorder has been proposed by cognitive-behavioral theorists (Thurston et al., 2017; Heimberg et al, 2010). The explanation features an interplay of both cognitive and behavioral factors. As you read in Chapter 3, cognitive-behavioral theorists start with the contention that people with this disorder hold a group of dysfunctional beliefs and expectations regarding the social realm. These can include:
- Holding unrealistically high social standards and so believing that they must perform perfectly in social situations
- Believing they are unattractive social beings.
- Believing they are socially unskilled and inadequate.
- Believing they are always in danger of behaving incompetently in social situations.
- Believing that inept behaviors in social situations will inevitably lead to terrible consequences.
- Believing they have no control over feelings of anxiety that emerge in social situations.
Cognitive-behavioral theorists hold that, because of these beliefs, people with social anxiety disorder keep anticipating that social disasters will occur, overestimate how poorly things go in their social interactions, and dread most
social situations (Gavric et al., 2017). Moreover, they learn to perform “avoidance” and “safety” behaviors to help prevent or reduce such disasters.

*Treatments for Social Anxiety Disorder*
Only in recent decades have clinicians been able to treat social anxiety disorder successfully. Their success is due in part to the growing recognition that the disorder has two distinct features that may feed upon each other: (1) sufferers have overwhelming social fears, and (2) they often lack skill at starting conversations, communicating their needs, or meeting the needs of others. Armed with this insight, clinicians now treat social anxiety disorder by trying to reduce social fears, by providing training in social skills, or both.

*How Can Social Fears Be Reduced?*
Medication often helps alleviate social fears (Curtiss et al., 2017). Such fears are reduced to some degree in 55 percent of patients who take either benzodiazepines or antidepressant drugs, compared to 24 percent of similar patients who take placebo drugs (Stein, 2016). It appears that these medications bring about relief by improving functioning in the brain’s fear circuit, which tends to be
hyperactive for people with social anxiety disorder, just as it is in cases of generalized anxiety disorder (Brühl et al., 2014).
At the same time, cognitive-behavioral therapy has proved to be at least as effective as medication at reducing social fears, and people helped by this approach seem less likely to relapse than those treated with medications alone (Gregory & Peters, 2017; Thurston et al., 2017; Heimberg & Magee, 2014). This finding suggests to some clinicians that this form of therapy should always be featured in the treatment of social fears, either alone or in combination with medication.
To undo the cycle of problematic social beliefs and behaviors described earlier, cognitive-behavioral therapists combine both behavioral and cognitive techniques. On the behavioral side, they conduct exposure therapy, the intervention so effective with phobias. The therapists encourage clients to expose themselves to their dreaded social situations and to remain in these situations as their fears subside. Usually the exposure is gradual, and it often includes homework assignments. On the cognitive side, the clinicians and clients have systematic therapy discussions in which the clients are guided to re-examine and challenge their maladaptive beliefs and expectations, given the less-than-dire outcomes of their social exposures.

@kmethne 我听过的说法是，社恐普遍把社交这件事情想象得太恐怖了，或者是过于苛求自己的表现。其实如果你真的去社交几次的话，会发现其实也不会发生什么，也没有人要求你表现完美。
​ 是在 Abnormal Psychology 里读到的。
如果真的去社交了发现确实恐确实不舒服的话，也许是接触的人群不对​​

看到露天平台的草长得这么好，我忍不住想种点东西​​

我就是因祸得福专家

真开心！需要挪用大概半年前写的一个功能，只写了代码没写笔记，看了半天看不懂，于是从头解决问题，瞬间想出一个更简便的办法​​

@Schneevongestern 你到底是做什么的​​

@ChuckL 小心我拱你